I have been so disembodied my whole life, and it is a grief that I am now coming to terms with as I look for ways to join up with myself.
I love the part apart your ovary wanting music!!! This is the kind of world I want to live in where we connect with everything with such respect and curiosity!
Fascinating! I love this post Michelle! There is an article on flow and the autism spectrum; ime I am prone to flow; it is highly pleasurable, I dislike being pulled out of it which “normal” or Non ND people misinterpret and struggle with. I’ll try to find the article for you. In fact, flow probably helped save my life in context of the hard places and trauma I come from. Being forced to conform and leave flow is in itself traumatic. My post “Don’t Diagnose Me” is also relevant in addressing emotional IQ. Trauma can interrupt the flow for sure (or prevent accessing it)
Yoga Nidra has been very helpful for me. Sarah Fay just wrote about the negative aspects of meditation and mindfulness for some people.
I suspect this is highly individual (we all have unique nervous systems) and I enjoyed reading about different approaches to writing past trauma. Kudos! 🫶
I love the metaphor of a ring of fire being protective. Will definitely use that! 🔥Thank you for a well written and meaningful piece.
My husband knows to say something slowly and quietly several times over 15 minutes or so prior to a transition; the analogy of a submarine surfacing from deep in the ocean. “Periscope up.”
I have a made-up hand sign for my children (a triangle formed with both hands’ thumbs and pointer fingers), to mean our private phrase, “Last splash.” 😂 This way, I don’t have to yell across a playground or a party. They see the sign language and know we’ll be leaving within five minutes. It’s kind of sweet, intimate, loving.
When my children were young, I witnessed what many parents do—children becoming agitated when they have to stop video games. An article said that watching video, especially gaming = simulated motion—but the body isn’t moving while someone is watching TV (the scene is); so, this tricks our vestibular system into thinking it’s moving, then, at the stop, two internal systems are out of sync. The solution is to have children move vigorously when the gaming that they were completely absorbed in stops. We made it a practice in my family to do ten jumping jacks or similar when video stops, to bring synchrony to the body (and to regulate mood). Nobody likes a sudden state change! And if ND, I imagine the agitation this could cause could be exacerbated. Verrry interesting to think now that slow transitions ease the experience. A closing ritual (like blowing out a candle when you’ve lit one to write by) or closing the notebook or computer with a mantra like “Even better luck next time…” might be nice to bookend the time spent in flow.
“One’s sense of safety influences their willingness to surrender hesitations and relax enough to enter the flow state.”
🙏🏻🙌🏻
Thanks for this Michelle.
I have been so disembodied my whole life, and it is a grief that I am now coming to terms with as I look for ways to join up with myself.
I love the part apart your ovary wanting music!!! This is the kind of world I want to live in where we connect with everything with such respect and curiosity!
Fascinating! I love this post Michelle! There is an article on flow and the autism spectrum; ime I am prone to flow; it is highly pleasurable, I dislike being pulled out of it which “normal” or Non ND people misinterpret and struggle with. I’ll try to find the article for you. In fact, flow probably helped save my life in context of the hard places and trauma I come from. Being forced to conform and leave flow is in itself traumatic. My post “Don’t Diagnose Me” is also relevant in addressing emotional IQ. Trauma can interrupt the flow for sure (or prevent accessing it)
Yoga Nidra has been very helpful for me. Sarah Fay just wrote about the negative aspects of meditation and mindfulness for some people.
I suspect this is highly individual (we all have unique nervous systems) and I enjoyed reading about different approaches to writing past trauma. Kudos! 🫶
I love the metaphor of a ring of fire being protective. Will definitely use that! 🔥Thank you for a well written and meaningful piece.
My husband knows to say something slowly and quietly several times over 15 minutes or so prior to a transition; the analogy of a submarine surfacing from deep in the ocean. “Periscope up.”
I have a made-up hand sign for my children (a triangle formed with both hands’ thumbs and pointer fingers), to mean our private phrase, “Last splash.” 😂 This way, I don’t have to yell across a playground or a party. They see the sign language and know we’ll be leaving within five minutes. It’s kind of sweet, intimate, loving.
I liken it to getting the bends from coming back up to the surface too quickly, after being in the depths!
Relatable.
When my children were young, I witnessed what many parents do—children becoming agitated when they have to stop video games. An article said that watching video, especially gaming = simulated motion—but the body isn’t moving while someone is watching TV (the scene is); so, this tricks our vestibular system into thinking it’s moving, then, at the stop, two internal systems are out of sync. The solution is to have children move vigorously when the gaming that they were completely absorbed in stops. We made it a practice in my family to do ten jumping jacks or similar when video stops, to bring synchrony to the body (and to regulate mood). Nobody likes a sudden state change! And if ND, I imagine the agitation this could cause could be exacerbated. Verrry interesting to think now that slow transitions ease the experience. A closing ritual (like blowing out a candle when you’ve lit one to write by) or closing the notebook or computer with a mantra like “Even better luck next time…” might be nice to bookend the time spent in flow.
Here’s that article on autistic flow which is true to my experience:
https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/jtsb.12427